Oral Sex for Every Body: Giving and Receiving for Men and Women (8 page)

Naughty Circles. Drawing circles with the point of your tongue is one of the most common, but exciting techniques for her. It’s better not to press too hard, since the clitoris is sensitive and you don’t want to injure it. Make spirals starting outside and work inward. You can make them small, medium, or large, clockwise or counterclockwise.

Vertical. A movement which is very simple and gives her great pleasure is the vertical (upwards and downwards). Though it’s easy to do, the biggest danger is that the man will speed up and do it too fast and with too much force. Do it with a flat tongue, and relaxed.

Side to Side. Though this is the most difficult movement, it is the most pleasure-giving. The difficulty lies in avoiding a

“superficial” cunnilingus; therefore, the tongue should caress and gently separate the lips. First, do it slowly and with light pressure. Once you have located the clitoris and excited it enough, then increase speed and pressure.

Figure Eight Technique. To master it you must have enthusiastically practiced the preceding techniques so you do not readily lose control of your tongue. Being a slower movement than the “naughty circle” and being more sinuous, it is more unpredictable and therefore more exciting.

Sexy Alphabet. Try to draw the letters of the alphabet on your girl’s clit. This way there are a lot more ways to stimulate her!

OTHER RESOURCES

To make sure your partner reaches climax with an exciting session of oral sex, you should employ various combinations of movements which include your lips, your tongue, and mouth, etc. The secret lies in being unpredictable and taking advantage of each session to surprise your lover with new moves and approaches. Here, follow some ideas to complete your tongue’s training:

Humming. Humming consists of making small, guttural sounds with your tongue on her sexual part. The vibrations generated this way act as an exciting mini-vibrator, which will drive your partner crazy.

Use Your Fingers. Fingers are your best friends when doing cunnilingus. Introduce a finger into the vaginal opening as you stimulate her clitoris with your tongue. Move your tongue softly, using it like a penis—entering, withdrawing, and twisting it. This combination of oral and manual sex is very exciting to a woman.

Lips and Teeth. These are excellent complements to the tongue. For example, the lips can be used to surround the clitoris while the tongue pushes it up and down. Lips and tongue also help to uncover the clitoris when it is hidden behind the folds of the vulva.

MASSAGING THE “YONI”

“Yoni” is the Sanskrit name for the vagina and means “sacred temple.” Massaging the yoni is one of the most pleasurable tantric practices available to a woman.

In Tantra, most sexual activities are performed as rituals and, as with any ritual, require certain preparations which, in the case of massaging the yoni, include a nice bath for both

partners, an intimate and tranquil space with music, candles, incense, pillows, scents, and a whole lot of time.

It starts off with hugs, soft caresses, exchanging glances, etc. Next, the woman lies on her back and rests her head on pillows, so she can maintain eye contact with her lover as well as observe the genitals. She should also have a pillow under her hips. Her legs should be totally open and somewhat bent so the genitals are well exposed and her partner can massage her easily. For his part, the man should sit between the woman’s legs with his legs crossed, or in the “lotus” position.

It is important not to begin with direct massage of the yoni. First caress other parts of her body such as her legs, her crotch, breasts, stomach, and little by little close in on the “Sacred Temple.” This way she will get used to the idea of being stroked and will be able to take in the pleasure that is gradually increasing.

Now, pour a little massage oil on your hands and gently stroke the Mount of Venus. That way, the oil will cover all of the outer part of the yoni and will reach the big lips, boosting the woman’s sensations and warming up the area. The massage should be done slowly and gently so that, little by little, she experiences greater excitement.

Then, with the thumb and index finger, the man should delicately take the big (exterior) lip and squeeze it, sliding along its length. He should gently do the same with the little lips.

Now use circular strokes around the clitoris, going clockwise, and then counter-clockwise. Softly press the clitoris directly, using the thumb and index finger.

Continuing, and with great care, introduce the middle finger of the right hand into the yoni. Using the right hand is important, since this way you maintain the correct energetic polarity as indicated by the Tantra. Explore the interior of the yoni with your finger, changing speeds, pressure, and direction. Move further inward, as if to put your hand in up to its palm, and stimulate your partner’s “G” spot.

You can also introduce your ring finger and continue massaging, while the thumb gently stimulates the clitoris.

By now, she should be at a high level of excitation. You can keep going until she reaches climax, or wait a few moments and then return to gently continue stimulation of the area.

Just About Him

Many say the penis is a man’s only erogenous zone. It’s true that his sexual response is very quick, and generally, sexual excitation is confined, almost exclusively, to this area. But men, too, enjoy foreplay. Kisses, stroking, massages, licks, whispers—all are necessary for a man’s full enjoyment, if it is to be more than just simple coitus. The same skill, tenderness, and patience are required from you to make him come undone with pleasure.

Caresses are not the exclusive prerogative of women. Men also like it when you run your delicate little hands over their body and massage those erogenous zones (it’s true, they do have them) in a seductive, naughty way.

For example, you might start with a relaxing head massage. If you have long nails, take advantage of them and make gentle circles all over his scalp. Get naked and place his head on your knees. With your hands extended on both sides of his head, behind his ears, exert light pressure with your fingers, keeping them slightly bent. Place your fingertips in his hair and massage it, as if you were giving him a shampoo, but always with slow movements and applying light pressure. With circular movements, move your fingers back and forth, going down to the nape of his neck and pressing his forehead with your thumbs.

This area of the skin is very susceptible to caressing, but don’t go too far with it, since that will cause him to relax to the point of sleepiness. And that is not what you want at this moment.

Keeping the same position, you can now go down to his neck, and then his chest, even massaging his nipples with your fingers. A man’s nipples are exceedingly sensitive to stroking, kissing, and even soft pinching (take it between your thumb and index finger).

You can also play with the hair on his chest, stroking it, tugging it gently, taking it in your lips, etc.

Indeed, the key with men is the same as with you: start slowly and gradually build up the level of stimulation. Remember, you are in control. You do not want to go too fast and trigger his already rapid and direct sexual response. The secret is to always begin by stimulating with foreplay. This way, you stretch things out until he’s ready for a massage.

Have him lie face down and begin with a gentle massage all over his back. Run your fingertips over his skin until you sense it bristling with pleasure. You can use the palms of your hands as well as your fingers, sliding them softly, without any haste. Work on his neck first, moving down to the shoulders, arms, back, legs, and all the way down to his feet.

Then go back the way you came, passing over the same areas as you return to his neck. You can use your hands for this massage, but don’t forget you have lips, a tongue, and even your breasts as alternatives.

If you want to add a more erotic touch, warm a bit of massage oil in your hands and rub it on your partner’s back. Use soft, sliding strokes along its length, following the path of his spine. Place your open hands on it with your fingers parallel,

sliding downwards with light pressure. Then go upwards, this time exerting pressure with just the base of your hand.

Men receive pleasure from deep and energetic massage. For this, you can use kneading as a technique. This consists of taking hold of the muscle in your hand and plying it, using your thumb and the rest of your fingers in opposition. Start with the shoulders and descend, bit by bit, to his back.

By now, your boy is ready for more seductive stimulation. Massage his butt and the inside of his thighs, slowly approaching his genitals.

CENTER OF HIS UNIVERSE

The penis—that small, yet great volcano—is the erotic zone par excellence of men, the place concentrating their most intense and pleasurable sensations. The whole penis is very sensitive, but its end, the glans, is particularly rich in nerve endings and above all the corona of the glans, which responds extremely rapidly to minimal stimulation. The frenum of the foreskin is also a place of extreme sensitivity, as well as just behind the opening of the penis.

Let’s get to know them a little better.

Scrotum and Testicles. The scrotum is the external sack which holds the testicles. It is of two unequal parts, with the left side usually descending lower than the right. Both testicles are incredibly sensitive to erotic stimulation.

The scrotum is analogous to the outer lips of the vagina, and though caresses and kisses do cause deep sensations, it is best

to stimulate it delicately, since it is such a delicate organ. If you spread a bit of massage oil on the scrotum, that will help to manipulate it more smoothly and avoid any painful tugging.

Glans, Prepuce, and Frenum. The penis is formed of three spongy cylinders which, when excited, fill with blood and make it erect. At the end of the penis there exists a protuberance, the glans, usually covered with a piece of skin (the foreskin).

Both the glans and foreskin are full of nerve endings, and stimulating them causes great pleasure. The glans and foreskin are joined on the underside of the penis by a piece of skin named the frenum, or “V” point. This is the most excitable part of the penis and, stimulated by itself, can result in orgasm. It’s preferable not to begin stimulation with this part, but to approach it gradually after having explored other areas. Be careful: stimulate the “V” spot with great gentleness; the slightest contact is enough to inundate it with sensation.

The glans is very susceptible to caressing with the lips, tongue, saliva, or teeth (delicately—it is quite fragile). Focus your most sensual caresses on this part. You can, for example, hold the penis firmly upright and make little circles on the glans, polishing it from one side to the other and up and down. You can also put your fingertips over the head of the glans, as if covering it over with a closed umbrella, and squeeze upwards towards the outside of its end. Also stimulate the groove of the glans with the point of your tongue or end of your thumb, always being very careful and making sure to watch your guy’s reactions.

Due to the extreme sensitivity of these areas of the penis, most of the stimulation should be done orally, since contact with the tongue tends to be much softer than that of the hands or fingers. You can give little flicks of the tongue or gentle licks, making circles on it, alternating with vertical and horizontal passes.

In case you use your fingers or some other part of your body or some object, make sure the area is well lubricated to ensure smooth contact.

Crest of the Corona. This is the posterior part of the glans which sticks out. It is very sensitive, and you can stimulate it by circling your tongue around it and licking it underneath. Another seductive stroke consists of taking the skin at the base of the penis, forming a ring around it with your thumb and forefinger, and turning them around the penis at just the point where the glans begins.

Stem. This is the main part of the penis and is most sensitive at its back. Grasp it firmly (without overdoing it) and make back and forth movements. You can combine this with a good session of oral sex.

Perineum. Situated between the scrotum and anus, this zone is very sensitive, as much in men as in women. In fact, it’s even more sensitive in men due to the presence of the prostate just under the skin.

Use your tongue to stimulate here, gently passing over the area, or caressing it with your fingertips, as well as kissing it, or delicately massaging. You can also press firmly with one or two fingers right behind the scrotum. Don’t do this for

more than a second, though. If you want, you can repeat this motion a few times. Remember that stimulating the perineum combined with oral sex makes for something extremely pleasurable.

The prostate gland may be stimulated by direct pressure on the perineum. Consisting of the external wall of the prostate, the perineum has been compared to the famous “G” spot in women.

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